Earlier today, I listened as a single friend told about her male friend's dating checklist. I couldn't help but think of that weirdly soothing pitchman for e-Harmony. Dr. Neil Clark Warren, founder of the dating website, applied over 35 years as a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor in developing his theory that a laundry list of characteristics can be used to predict compatibility and success in relationships. My friend complained this approach took all the fun out of dating and the discovery process. I would have to agree.
Meeting new people, whether they be potential romantic partners, friends, business associates, or dates, is like unwrapping a gift. Sometimes, we gingerly untie the ribbon and detach the beautiful paper from the box. Other times, we can't wait to rip open the package, especially if wrapped in yesterday's comics. Hmm. At any rate, the fun is in the discovery process. What do we have in common? Any fascinating stories? Chemistry?
Once we lay it all on the line in some computerized inventory, we lose the whole process. Developing relationships shouldn't involve resumes, CV's, and a human resource search.
It's kind of like shopping at the outlet mall or Loehmann's. When you go in looking for that perfect pair of black pants or a white blouse, we probably won't find it. When you least expect it, you'll find that adorable Tory Burch gilded sheath dress which would be perfect to wear to your next cocktail party!
So, single folks, listen up! Put down the mouse! Get out of the house and talk to three strangers today. You never know where you will find a treasure! And the fun is sometimes in the discovery!
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