Facebook Lite?

Facebook Lite? Fewer calories, less filling? What is this about? Generally speaking, with the exception of Lite Beer and diet soda, I consider the modifier "Lite" to be a pejorative. Kind of like the Cliff Notes experience vs. reading the original literature. Missing out on the experience in favor of a streamlined version. Don't get me wrong. I spent the better part of my formative years eating "frozen dietary confections," and even did the fat free thing in the early 90s. That was then. "The Skinny: How to Fit into Your Little Black Dress Forever" by Melissa Clark and Robin Aronson changed my life. I am all about LBD's, great food, and an occasional glass of Krug. What this means in real time? Moderation. No faux foods.

What does this have to do with FB Lite? If it ain't broke...

Facebook Lite is a streamlined version of FB designed originally for users in other countries with lower bandwith. Whatever that means.

According to Facebook, Lite could help attract new users. "We have found that people who are new to Facebook tend to be most interested in a simpler experience, and focus on establishing their network of friends and communicating with them by writing on their walls, sending messages, and looking at pictures. We have introduced the Lite site with these new users in mind," the company said in a statement. FB Lite users can post and share videos, photos and events, as well as exchange one-on-one messages.

I am guessing these new users might be senior citizens or people slow to adapt. The kind who use a Go Phone or are Text-phobic. I support any development in communication which brings the outside world to homebound senior and even those who are out and about. "Help! I've fallen and I can't get up!" brings tears to my eyes, evocative of the Native American in headdress from those cheesy environmental PSA's of my youth. My own grandmother used Web TV to e-mail and surf the web in her 90s. And J-Date and similar sites are like the fern bars of the 70s.

That said, I'll be shelving FB Lite like I do lite Mayo, light butter, fat free half and half.... Or as Julia used to say, "If you're afraid of butter, just use cream!"

Bill Gates: Too Many Friends?

I just read on Yahoo News that Bill Gates is quitting Facebook because he has "too many friends." Now, I have never met Mr. Gates but I am going out on a limb that he may not have been Mr. Popularity in high school. Not that it matters. Most people go through their lives somewhere on the continuum between confident and completely insecure. We want to be liked. Heck, even Sally Field addressed an audience of celebs when she won an Oscar. "They like me!"

Maybe Mr. Gates has so much money and has achieved so much success that he is out of the game. I have always thought life tends to resemble the high school cafeteria. Bill Gates may be the guy with the cool car who left campus during lunch!

Kelly Times Two

Kelly Hildebrandt and Kelly Hildebrandt will wed in October. No, this is not a typo.

Female Kelly Hildebrandt of Coral Springs, Florida talks about searching in Facebook, "I searched my own name and he's the only one who came up and actually in the picture he didn't have a shirt on and I was like oh he's cute." Her future fiance flew from his home to Lubbock, Texas and the rest is history. Apparently, their shared has caused some confusion at the post office. At least if they won't need to change their monogrammed stationary or towels.

Most of us have Googled ourselves upon occasion or perhaps even checked to see if anyone on Facebook shared our names. I have never really considered the implications for single folks looking for a relationship. Could the desire to marry oneself be construed as narcissistic? Perhaps instead of e-Harmony or J-date, someone could come up with Ego-Harmony or Self-Date? Maybe the search for single people who shared names could be the subject of a new dating reality show? There's a new plus-sized dating show on Fox called "More to Love." Why not "Shared Name Love?"

This is the epitome of "meet cute" for the computer age! I could go on and on but I need to watch "The Bachelorette"!

Living in a Virtual World 'Cause I am a Virtual Girl

The internet has been one of history's most life-changing technologies, right up there with the invention of the telephone, radio, and television. E-mail, instant messaging, and Skype have changed the way we communicate with each other. The web has opened an unrivaled pathway to information, transforming the way students complete research projects. Of course, with the good comes the bad. Newspaper readership is at an all-low and many daily newspapers have folded or at the very least, have become a sparse collection of AP wire stories. People talk about the demise of the bookstore in favor of Kindle and other downloading technologies. While I quickly adapt to the changes, I am a strong proponent of the written word. I grew up browsing our World Book Encyclopedia and its annual updates. Many times, I would get lost in the library after school; my mother would contemplate filing a missing person's report. Alas, this was an era before cell phones and texting. I was the first to applaud the addition of Starbuck's to Barnes & Noble. A latte or even a drip while browsing the stacks of books? I think I do believe in heaven!

The internet has created a fourth virtual dimension. Initially, sites such as Classmates.com presented an online class reunion. We could Google and Zabasearch our way to find old boyfriends, girlfriends, classmates, roommates, and work colleagues. Of course, the reverse was also possible. We could no longer hide from the folks we may have decided to drop like a hot potato.

The advent of social networking sites such as Facebook has created a virtual community where we can reminisce with hometown chums, share ideas and conversation with a wide group of "friends." We no longer need to wait for annual holiday cards to post photos of our kids. We can even browse our elementary school class pictures or college era photos others may have posted. We find new friendships among people we may not have seen in 25 plus years.

Yet, the reunion aspect and comment-sharing applications of Facebook are just the tip of the iceberg. At a late night birthday dinner with a new friend, we discussed social networking. My friend profoundly noted when we reconnect with those from our past, we are looking for pieces of ourselves.

An intricate highway of experiences have led us to this stage of our lives. We would not be who we are today without the sum total of our past relationships. In order to move forward on life's journey, we need to stop at traffic lights along the way. As we come to an intersection, we must often make difficult choices. Reflecting on our youth, we may lament a time when the road was entirely ahead of us. We may become nostalgic for simpler times. Reminiscing with our childhood and high school friends provides comfort food for our souls. Our journeys may be far from complete. We will continue to come to forks in the road which will determine our futures. As the map unfolds, we write our own stories. Along the way, we may be surprised with relationships rekindled from earlier days. Finding a precious friend among those whose paths we may have crossed in the past is most extraordinary. People come in and out of our lives for a reason. We guide each other through difficult times and laugh through the good times. We nurture and inspire each other.

A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow.” (William Shakespeare.)